When was the last time you felt really, truly lonely?
I don’t know. I am not even sure if I ever felt really and truly lonely… I don’t think so.
At all times in my life I had the support of either my mother or father or my friends and now for sure my husband and kids. I had moments in my life when I felt I was on my own. But loneliness is something totally different and I think we need to make this difference. Do we feel alone or left alone or do we feel truly lonely?
They are two totally different things. Being alone can feel bad and can hurt but it’s not loneliness and every now and then I think it is even good for you to be alone. Just to ground yourself again. Being lonely though is so much different.
Loneliness:1. Sadness, because one has no friends or company2. (of a place) the quality of being unfrequented and remote; isolated
Being lonely is not feeling on your own, or being on your own. Being lonely is something stronger. A place I don’t want to be. I think that if you have the right people in your life, you will never be lonely. They fill this space, if you allow them to. Not only a place can be isolated, a person can be too. And I think all this comes together when you are lonely. There are truly no people in your life. No family, no friends, nobody. Nobody notices you, nobody cares. You may even be isolated.
Many years ago, after I was left by a guy I had a relationship with, who had previously promised me heaven on earth, I felt alone. I’ve never felt so bad before, so sad and kind of robbed of a time on this guys side. I felt hurt and left behind and lied to. But there was my friend, who was there to pick me up. He picked me up, he listened, he was there, he came over when I felt so sad, that I didn’t know what to do anymore. I was in a dark place then. Not myself at all.
Although I felt alone because this guy had left me, I was not lonely at all as my friend was there. Actually three of my best friends were there. All the time, or better whenever I needed them. Not only did they dry my tears and listened but they also put my feed back on the ground. They ‘healed’ me. They were like a safety net and I still appreciate it, even today. I am in the lucky position to say, that I have never ever truly and really felt lonely. Alone yes, but never lonely. And I am glad this is the case.
I wonder though, writing this, if we choose to be lonely? If we choose not to let people into our life? If we are the ones who isolate ourselves from potential friends out there?
In response to The Daily Post Daily Prompt – Cut Off